I am studying for a sermon series on community and fellowship for our church and was struck by an odd realization.
The loss of a sense of community also signals the loss of meaningful solitude. The reason is that without meaningful relationships, solitude is no longer a nourishing respite. It is similar to the way sleep becomes different for a person that isn’t able to get out of bed. It still happens, but the way it is experienced is different from the person that is exhausted from a hard day of physical work. Without meaningful community we may fall into a state of constant loneliness, and in such a state periods of solitude may do little more than magnify the feelings of isolation.
Questions for Essentialism Chapter 5
This is a list of discussion questions to help work through the content of the book “Essentialism” By Greg McKeown.
Download a pdf of these questions here: Essentialism Questions Ch. 5
In order to figure out what is essential we need designated times and spaces in order to think. These must be free from other obligations and distractions.
- “Do not call Monday” from Frank O’brien of Conversations
- The d.school at Stanford and their thinking spaces.
- Isaac Newton and his time of solitude writing the Principia Mathematica
- Jeff Weiner CEO of LinkedIn schedules 2 hours everyday where nothing is planned.
- Bill Gates habit (think week) of taking 2 weeks off each year to read and think.
- Often our distracted schedules and frenetic pace prevent us from having time to think and reflect. How would you rate your life and schedule in this regard? Does the idea of carving out time for this seem like a reality in your life?
- Frank O’brien sets aside one day per month for his employees to get away to think and reflect. This helps them maintain a level of clarity and innovation. Availability for this is also a barometer for him to understand his work force. “If somebody can’t make the meeting because of too much going on, that tells me either we’re doing something inefficiently or we need to hire more people.” What does this barometer say about your life?
- It is often difficult to make time and space for reflection because of our daily demands. We get caught up responding to needs and emergencies that we cannot extricate ourselves to improve the systems and organizations behind the emergencies. Which parts of your weekly/monthly schedule keep you from time to reflect?
- What is keeping you from scheduling uninterrupted time for peaceful reflection?
- Do you have a place where you can “escape” and think? How well is this working? List 3 possible locations you can use to escape the calls, tweets, emails, and emergencies that keep you from time to reflect.
- According to McKeown, “focus is not only something we have, it is something we do.” What keeps you from “doing” focused work? Make a list of the top 5 interruptions and distractions in your life and business.
- What can you do to get several hours away from these top interruptions and distractions from #6?
- Does technology distract you? What aspects of your connectivity hinder you from the most important things? (smart phone, social media, email, voicemail, etc).
- McKeown tells the story of the highly distracted executive that just couldn’t disconnect. In a moment of desperation he decided to give his phone away and to go to a motel with no internet access to get work done. He stayed there for 8 weeks until the major project was completed. What major project or life goal could you accomplish if you were willing to get away for just a day or two? Explore this idea before moving on.
- What nonessential things can you give up so that you can schedule regular (weekly/monthly) time for solitude and reflection? List something to give up or “quit” this week for a higher purpose.
- Jeff Weiner of LinkedIn said his single most valuable productivity tool was planning 2 hours every work day where nothing else was scheduled. (p. 68) Right now take a moment to dream (in writing) about how your life and work would change if you did this? What can you imagine would happen to your stress level? To your focus? To the way you treat others? To your productivity?
- Whether you take a whole day or week off to read and think, where can you build in a small amount of time to enrich your mind and soul through reading and thinking?
- List 3 books/articles that can help you understand your life/business/market better. Take a moment to write out what the potential benefits of this. If you can’t think of any, write down the names of 2 people you can talk to for suggestions. What will you ask them?